Aunt Fancy

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  I'm not trying to brag, but being an EXJW is awesome!!! Status Update-

  by Coffee House Girl in

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  hello jwn!

  i don't get to check in here or comment as often as i would like because i have been working so hard at school...but i just have to share my news in hopes that newbees can see that taking the leap to enroll in higher education is worth it-.

  i am graduating this spring with a bachelor degree in art history, minor anthropology...many people (including nonjw's have given me flack for choosing a "dead end" career path) but since leaving the watchtower organization's group-think mentality and "leaning on my own understanding" instead... i decided to say fuck everyone else's opinion...i am going to pursue my passion to work in a museum as a curator or archivist-.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Congratulations!! No you are not bragging and it makes my heart rejoice when someone from the EX community is able to follow their dreams and get into college and then on top of it to get offered a free Masters program. Way to go. Keep up the good work and my only suggestion would be to look at the history of both schools and see which one will give you a better advantage in the job market since your area can be a little harder to get into. Both schools are in great areas of the country so you would probably enjoy either one unless you hate the cold! LOL
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  I did it !!!!

  by snare&racket in

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  7 years ago i started on a path i had long ago given up on as impossible.

  i met with my elders and told them i could not justify carrying on as a jw.

  i went and got my high school qualifications and my higher education diploma (a levels with distinction) in just 12 months.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Congratulations Dr. Snare! I am so proud of you, what an accomplishment. It brought tears to my eyes because I am always happy to hear that one of the Ex-JW's reached for their dream and made it. It will be worth it!
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  JWs no longer taking the Governing Body seriously.

  by kneehighmiah in

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  2. friends

  the recent letter being us to come to detroit shows that jws are beginning not to take the gb seriously anymore.

  the buzz following the meeting was that the letter was unprecedented in its tone.

  this coming from long time jws of 30 years plus.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Welcome Magnum, I can remember when I first started attending in the early 80's there was always deeper discussions at that time. We even use to have WT studies at each other's homes Saturday evening after we ate dinner together, those days are long gone. Now you never get together and they discourage you getting together to study WT materials. I remember there was a time when it was highly discouraged to talk about anything in the meetings but spiritual things. If you talked about your job, shopping, vacations etc. you were spiritually weak.
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  Once Again: It's Okay for JWs to Rip-Off Non-JWs

  by Iown Mylife in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  today i heard from the owner of a small restaurant, the story of how a brother in a local congregation ripped him off for thousands.

  the restaurant owner is not a jw but totally familiar with the cult, as his mother is a long-time baptized sister.

  she asked him to hire this wonderful brother from her congregation to do construction work he needed at his house.

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  Aunt Fancy

  We learned the same thing! We have been ripped off by a couple of elders that were never removed for it. We refuse to do work for JW's because of it.

  When my husband was a elder there was another brother that did construction and he did two remodel jobs for an older widowed sister and a brother with a non believer wife. He screwed both of them on their jobs and when the brother went to the elders about it because his wife was about ready to leave him over it my husband felt terrible for him and told him he would finish his kitchen remodel for the little bit of money left in the job, and yes we lost money because of it but he was very thankful we helped him and did some nice things in return. The brother who conned them had bad check notices up all over the place and he had an afair with another sister and yes you can guess it, he was made an elder a couple of years ago!! He also never paid his income taxes!!!

  The owner of the restaurant needs to go after him and get whatever he can. If I were in his position I would talk to the local body of elders and write the WTS. He needs to make a big stink over it and he might get some action.
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  Seeds of Doubt.

  by donny in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  seeds of doubt.

  what was it about the jw religion that first gave you serious doubts as to its truthiness?.

  for me it occurred in late 1984 when we were studying the brochure the divine name that will endure forever which had been released at the summer convention that year.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Mine started before I started an official study and it was the disfellowshipping rules. I allowed myself to be loved bombed because I was 1600 miles away from my family and friends and had a little son and divorced.

  I had many things come to mind throughout the 30 years I was in and I didn't listen to myself. Instead my mind and body broke down because of it and I finally got so sick and didn't attend meetings for a month which helped me see the real truth about it.
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  "We have NO idea how many in our congregation were baptized last year."

  by NeverKnew in

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  2. scandals

  was i lied to?.

  are the members of a congregation even mildly aware of how many people who belong to their very own congregation were recently baptized?

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  Aunt Fancy

  I haven't been to a meeting in 19 months but they always announced "we have a new brother or sister...". I do know that the numbers have gone down. You use to be able to count on 1% of the attendance getting baptized, not so in our area which is the NE.
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  Hello - mentally out, physically in...

  by Bluefluff in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have been lurking for a while but was encouraged to sign up by a user on the ex jw reddit forum.

  i'm a still in jw but i've been mentally out for about two months.

  i'm an ms and i'm also gay so i have two lots of 'coming out' to do very soon!.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Welcome Bluebluff, you sure have a lot on your plate. There are so many support avenues out there for the Ex-JW community and also the gay community. Try to make friends outside the religion so you have the support when you finally leave. Confronting your parents will be difficult especially about being gay because of their religious stand. One of my sisters is gay so I know the struggles she has had to go through but one thing I do know is that they have a great community and they really support each other. I also am able to freely talk to her and I am so glad that it is getting better for the gay community, it still is not where it should be. Hang in there! You are on the ride of your life but you are also headed for freedom. someone is always here if you need to talk.
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  Wifey is getting into audiobooks...

  by Captain Obvious in

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  so i'm a huge audible fan.

  i'm always plowing through an audiobook about history, religion, science or money.

  imo, no one could ever read/listen to my library and continue to be religious or ignorant of natural history.

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  Aunt Fancy

  This may not work for you but I was reading books about North Korea, FLDS, Amish and Scientology and it made me realize the JW's were very simular (cult). Then I read the books on JW's and was able to get my husband to read it by telling him things I was learning. We both came out together 19 months ago.

  When I was telling my husband things I had read he would give me the canned answers and I came back to him with "that is exactly what they said you would say". It made him want to prove me wrong so he said let me read the book. It worked for me.
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  I want my donations back!

  by Hortenzie in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i want to ask wt for my donations back.

  i live in canada and i have income tax receipts from them so i can prove how much i gave them.... anybody ever tried something like that or heard about somebody doing it?

  what approach should i take?.

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  Aunt Fancy

  Let us know if you are able to get anything back. I would be very surprised if you are successful because I have read accounts of JW's lending the WTS temporary money with the notion that when they ask for it the WTS will send it back. When they asked for it back the WTS said it was a donation and wouldn't return the money. I can't remember if he sued them and what the outcome was.

  I too would love to have my time back and the money. We gave a lot and my husband spent years on the RBC and he was one of the 5 or so men on the committee so he spent many hours doing plans and ordering materials. We also supplied some materials. Oh how mad I get when I realized we were slave labor and they were using us.
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  Thirty Years a Watch Tower Slave

  by Londo111 in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i just finished reading this and enjoyed it.

  however, if i was newly awakening or on the verge of awakening, i dont think this book would have helped me a great deal.

  brother schnell has some good thoughts, however, he is short on detail and description, and even shorter on proof and documentation.. it is interesting reading about the transition of the bible students from a small group of independent noncomformists into an organization characterized by total conformity.

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  Aunt Fancy

  I also read the book but it wasn't one of my favorite books. Some of it was interesting but I am glad I read other books first.